Stay at Home Non-Mom's Blog

New Shoes

2009-05-05T04:37:00.000-07:00

I love these Stuart Weitzman sandals. They are sold out everywhere, but I found them at Bloomingdales in my size.

http://www1.bloomingdales.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=137953&PseudoCat=se-xx-xx-xx.esn_results#mainProductImage

Frozen Eggs

2009-05-03T17:31:00.000-07:00

Sarah Jessica Parker, my favorite actress-ever, is having twins at age 44! How is she doing this you ask? The smart way- through a surrogate mother, using her eggs that were frozen several years ago. I have now started to look into freezing my eggs. I have no desire to have a child right now (or ever), but since I'm 36 years old I need to begin thinking about these things and planning ahead.

What if I change my mind? What if my very smart, reasonable, genius husband changes his mind and begins to think I could some how handle being the mother of his child.

My eggs aren't fresh and are getting older every day. I have read that the healthiest people are the ones whose mothers conceived them at younger ages, because the eggs are newer. Makes sense to me.

The other hugh positive about freezing your eggs and using a surrogate is avoiding the pregnancy and delivery labor part. I feel this is proof that people don't really put much thought into things before they do them, because if they did, I don't think there would be many children in the world because noone in their right mind would want and enjoy being pregnant (I have had friends tell me they have). I don't like to weigh over 112 lbs. I start to become uncomfortable when the scale starts to approach 115; I have to cut back on my fruits and veggies. I couldn't imagine what it would be like to gain 20 -25lbs for pregnancy that would put me between 132-137! I couldn't think of anything more uncomfortable, except for the labor/delivery part , which would be terrifying (I had a friend that said it was easy and only 4 hours) but she has very large hips! I don't, so there is no way this would go well for me.

Am I the Only One?

2009-04-17T22:55:00.001-07:00

I live in a neighborhood infested with children and stay-at-home moms. Every woman in her 30's has at least 1, most have 2 and some have several children. All of us have one thing in common. We don't work outside the home, but these woman work hard taking care of their children all day. It would be easier for them to go to work and send their children to daycare each day. I know if I had a child I would need to get a job. I can't think of anything more difficult than staying home with children all day. I guess the other option would be to send the child to daycare and not to get a job. I would probably opt for that.

I feel like there is noone else in my situation. Why do all woman seem to want babies. Or is it just the woman that live in my neighborhood? I think I'm missing the maternal gene. I am maternal when it comes to taking care of my dog, but he isn't all consuming. He can be left alone during the day. He doesn't need my constant attention.

The childless women I know all have jobs, the woman that don't have jobs all have children, and all of the other woman have a child or children and a job! Is there another woman that doesn't have a job or a child out there? Am I the only one?

Facebook

2009-04-08T23:18:00.000-07:00

Facebook is my new addiction. My husband went out of town for 2 days and for 2 days I sat on my sofa and did nothing but search for old friends and edit my profile. I would feel too guilty doing this when he was home; I would have at least made it to yoga class.

My husband is such a type A personality and I'm so type C. I use to be a B, but after marrying an extreme A it's like he does more than enough for both of us and for several other people as well. So I can take a time out and sit back and relax (I've read that most people can't do this) and know that I may not be making a difference, but my husband is. This gives me great satisfaction and fulfillment to know that he does his part so well it makes up for my lack of having a part.

This doesn't mean that I'll never have a part. I know some day I will, but until that some day comes I can sit peacefully on my sofa logged into Facebook all day.

Returned My Foster Bunny Today

2009-03-31T14:41:00.000-07:00

I returned my Foster Bunny today. It was so sad I almost cried. I only had him for 2 months, but he became part of the family. My dog doesn't seem to mind that he's gone. Maybe he is excited about not having to share the carrots anymore.

Charities I Support

2009-03-30T20:19:00.000-07:00

I've donated money to the following charities this past year:

NRDC Natural Resource Defense Council http://www.nrdc.org/

WWF World Wildlife Fund: http://www.worldwildlife.org/

Arbor Day Foundation: http://www.arborday.org/ I love this~They offer wonderful Give-a-Tree Cards. They will send you a card to sign for any occasion and give to a friend and also plant a tree in their honor. http://www.arborday.org/shopping/giveatree/giveatree.cfm?TrackingID=507 They also offer trees in memory of a loved one or friend that has passed away. http://www.arborday.org/shopping/tictim/TIMSample.cfm and trees planted for pets: http://www.arborday.org/shopping/treesforpets/index.cfm?trackingID=806

Kiva: I favor animal and environmental charities but wanted to support this because it is such a neat idea. This charity allows you to lend money to an entrepreneur in a developing country so they can lift themselves out of poverty http://www.kiva.org/

Almost forgot this one. Peta: www.peta.com They can be a little dramatic at times, but they do get results.

Bear Naked Granola

2009-03-26T22:25:00.000-07:00

This granola looks awesome. My friend told me about it as an inspirational story to inspire me to do something with my life.

http://eatbearnaked.com/estore/naturalgranola/

This granola sounds perfect. I'm always looking for something healthy to snack on when I stop at gas stations while I'm on the road traveling. Everyone knows how hard it can be to find a healthy snack at a gas station. I would love to be able to go for some organic granola or trail mix.

This is also a great story about a girl right out of college not knowing what she wanted to do with her life and really only knowing how to make granola really well. She decided to follow her passion.

http://www.bearnaked.com/story.htm

My friend was trying to stress that I should follow my passion and find something I'm really good at and enjoy doing. Even if it's something as simple as making granola.

What Should a Stay at Home Non-Mom Do With Her Time?

2009-03-26T19:44:00.000-07:00

I talked to my good friend today. We met in college and have been friends since I was 19 years old. She knows me as well as practically anyone. I told her I was bored with my numerous years of being a stay at home non-mom and asked her what she thought I should do with my life.

Her first suggestion was that I write a book. She said that I have a gift of getting people to do things for me, and referred to a time in college when we needed a board for a table clinic and went to a lumber yard and I asked the man at the lumber yard to take the wood and put the board together for us, which he did at no charge. I later brought the board home and my father painted it for us. We did nothing for the table clinic. I actually don't remember this incident probably because this wasn't my best work.

I'm not the best writer and actually don't think I would enjoy writing an entire book.

She later went on to suggest I do something with animals particularly dogs, because I like them so much. She suggested an organic dog biscutt company. I actually think this is a pretty good idea, but since I'm not very good at cooking or baking this idea may not work either.

She went on to suggest numerous things like, inventions, make my own perfume, import fabric. All of these ideas seemed very good and are things I've actually thought of.

Sometimes having too many options makes a decision more difficult.

I would love to hear what other people would do if they could do anything and didn't have to work for money.

Housewives of New York City

2009-03-10T20:25:00.000-07:00

I love this show. This is my favorite housewives show. I can't watch Atlanta or Orange county. I watch Desperate Housewives every Sunday, but that isn't nearly as good as it use to be.

Why I'm Not in Love With Obama

2009-03-09T15:13:00.001-07:00

I'm not sure why I don't love Obama. I can't really answer this. I could give obvious reasons, like my husband having to pay more money in taxes, but that's NOT the reason.

I wanted to be like the cool people on election day and vote for him, but I couldn't and instead had to go with the 3rd party candidate. I certainly, wasn't going to vote for McCain and Palin. I'm not a Republican.

I was even relieved and happy Obama won on election day. I'm thrilled with the changes he has made with abortion rights, stem cell research and much of what he has done so far. He is an honest, intelligent man, that is going to do his best.

I want to love Obama, I really do, he is so perfect in so many way, but I can't and I just don't. A person doesn't choose who they fall in love with. No matter how hard I try, I know I will never love Obama.

Does a Person Need to Have a Child to Live a Meaningful, Happy, Complete Life?

2009-03-08T19:28:00.001-07:00

Ojon Restorative Hair Treatment

2009-03-06T14:37:00.000-08:00

Everyone has different hair types and problems and some very fortunate people (like me before now) don't have hair problems. If you are one of the unfortunate many with dry damaged hair this is the product for you.

I have naturally curly, dry hair, from years of flat iron use, and this product has done wonders for my hair. Ojon oil is a rich oil extracted from the Ojon tree in Tropical Central America. It can be used as a deep conditioning treatment or a leave in conditioner. I use it at least once per week as a deep conditioning treatment leaving it in my hair for 6-8 hours with a shower cap (the kind salons use (I buy at Sally's Beauty Supply) ). I don't like sleeping in a shower cap, so I use it during the day, being a stay at home non-mom I'm able to do this. You can do this while you are sleeping, but be careful it will stain your pillow case. FYI....I stained one of my pillow cases and the oil did wash out.

I bought the products at sephora or you can buy them directly from Ojon.

http://www.ojon.com/products/OJT0001

http://www.ojon.com/index_main.php

I'm also using the Ojon Ultra Hydrating Shampoo and Conditioner. The smell is the best thing about the Shampoo and Conditioner. I love the smell, but I'm not a perfume kinda girl. It's a very natural earthy smell and I'm sure not for everyone. Nontheless, I prefer my biolage shampoo and deep conditioner to Ojon Shampoo and Conditioner and will most likely be returning back after I'm finished with my new bottles of Ojon.

But I will continue to use my Ojon Restorative Hair Treatment 4-Ever.

How to Save Money When Buying Your Own Medical Insurance Policy

2009-03-06T14:14:00.000-08:00

One of our great economic challenges of the decade is the cost of medical insurance for individuals as well as companies.

A suggestion for individuals when shopping for medical insurance would be to comparative shop. An excellent website to use for comparative shopping for individual insurance is http://www.ehealthinsurance.com/.

Just by typing in your zip code you will get quotes and be able to compare plans. You can use this information to find a new insurance provider or you can use the information to contact your current provider and use the quote to negotiate a better price for your current plan with your insurance agent.

An insurance company that I want to recommend is Assurant Health: http://www.assuranthealth.com/corp/ah?ipsrc=media&reftype=pi&sptype=osmx.

I have family members that have switched to Assurant Health and have found it to be a hugh cost saving value compared to their previous provider.

Must a Person have a Job or do Volunteer Work to Contribute to Society in a Positive Way?

2009-03-04T18:59:00.000-08:00

I sent my husband an email this afternoon and asked him if I was valuable.

His response: In every non-financial way imaginable!

Isn't that sweet.

But it made me question, why did he consider me unvaluable in a financial way. I do spend the money he makes working at his "job" and this spending does stimulate the economy. He certainly wouldn't buy the clothing and items for our houses that I buy. So, I must be valuable to others in a financial way when I make purchases and pay for services.

My question is must one have a " job" or do volunteer work to contribute to society in a positive way.

Or, Is there another way?

Best for My Country that I Don't Work

2009-03-04T18:25:00.000-08:00

My friend gave me a hard time for not working today. He said he would not speak to me until I found a job or did some type of volunteer work.

Assuming, my foster bunny doesn't count, I did some deep soul searching and made a quick stop at the book store to pick up some franchise /small business magazines.

After much contemplation, I came to the conclusion that it is best for my fellow Americans that I in fact, don't work! If I took a job I would be taking the job of someone that potentially needs the money to pay for housing and food. I need money for neither.

He agreed! However, I was still bothered by this perception that because I was not working at a "job" or doing volunteer work that I wasn't contributing to society in a positive way. After reading my 3 magazines I found an article regarding starting a blog. I thought I can do that! Why not. I'll try. So, this is my first attempt at work in almost 4 years.